Thursday, February 2, 2012

Sex and sexuality, I

I would like to start this post with a question for you to answer (sharing on my blog is always welcome). Take your time, be honest.

What do Sex & Sexuality mean to you? What role do they play in your life and how do you feel about them?

Before you start thinking I would like to share my perception, just so you understand what I am talking about. 
Sex and sexuality are two different words with their own unique meaning. However for me, they are inseparable and complementary. Sex has never meant to me as a simple physical act/intercourse. It's rather a sacred union of body, mind and soul connected in the most natural and loving way. In other words, it's the highest level of balance between mind, body and soul that feels the most natural and loving.

I believe to truly enjoy sex it needs to be perceived as something sacred and given to us from God. In fact, there is a lot of evidence from the earlier religious works telling us that sex was considered the highest form of love by God's manifestation. The earlier works of Kabbalah didn't only consider sex sacred but also performed Sex Magick rituals to communicate with God (the Divine) to manifest their dreams and desires. And of course, the most convincing argument is that it's only thru sex that we are able to create new life in a natural way.

Sexuality is a state (a sensation if you will) necessary to make a sexual experience spiritual. Simply put, to reach the highest sexual satisfaction and connect to the Divine, you need to develop sexuality first. It could be developed in many ways and I'll be sharing with you my methods in the future posts, I promise. Trust me, I take this stuff seriously :) Simply because, anytime before a sexual experience (either by myself or with a partner) I feel that it's something magical and requires special preparation. I'll discuss it in a greater detail going forward. But for now I just want you to think about those questions I asked in the beginning.

Music might be helpful in your thought process:) here is a video I like but you can use your own, just make sure it's sensual. Have fun!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUh99P4lYAM

4 comments:

  1. You pose a very good question, Sasha. I sometimes wonder if people really give this much thought in their lives.

    I once had a girlfriend where we talked about this very thing. She had a pretty open mind about sexuality and liked to indulge it in various ways. There were times when she wanted the experience of sex to be kind, gentle, loving, and comforting. But sometimes she wanted it rough and hard, a rather strong departure from the other way. While I did what she craved in order to please her, it wasn't something I'd ever initiate. Like you I feel that intercourse is a sacred union of body, a merging of mind and soul with the greatest love. It is a symbiotic feeding between two people.

    I do appreciate how there's the consideration of spicing things up. You don't want sex to become routine; same position, same scenario, same place, same time, same... you get it. Also, it shouldn't be all about intercourse. There is so much about massage and caressing that fills the soul. There were times when I'd be with my girlfriend and we'd just hold, hug, touch, caress, massage, and enjoy each other's bodies for hours. No intercourse. There was a special spot we each had for each other, where sometimes we'd linger. For me, it was the small of her back. I felt such an energy there, such a sensual glow.

    We also have different kinds of connections with each person. I have what I'd call "healing hands". I dated a girl who had very sensitive hands, not in a fragile way, but she just felt a lot through them. One time we were both sitting at a table in a restaurant and I had her hold up her hands, resting her elbows comfortably on the table. I held mine up to hers, just outside of touching. And then I quietly told her to open her mind and allow me to give her energy through my hands. I didn't talk much at all after that. We could hear each other breathing as the warmth built up between us. We were like that for about 10 minutes. It was such an amazing experience that totally juiced us up (and so we left the restaurant not long after that!).

    Being intimately connected to someone is a rejuvenating experience. When sexual contact diminishes in a relationship, this is often the foreboding of what is to come, which is the increasing distance and eventual breakup. I don't mean that people need to be connected 24/7, but there should always be a focus to joining whenever possible, be it through hands or other means.

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  2. Beautifully said. I agree with everything you said and especially that relationship dies without a sexual contact. Intimacy like nothing else brings two people closer. Another thing I discovered: when in a relationship with a loving partner who makes sure to take care of his woman sexually, sex gets only better and better with time, and not visa versa. If it's getting stale then it means that relationship is dying or it wasn't love to begin with. Sex I had with the first man I loved (in my post Crazy in Love I:) was the best sex of my life the whole 5 years we shared. We never even called it sex but "making love". This is when you know it is true love. Thank you Gary for your honesty. It's great to know there are men that care about it as much as we do.

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  3. Thanks, I'm glad you appreciated it. You're fortunate to have experienced strong sexual synergy with someone early on. I think many people spend a lot of time not knowing what to look for, not knowing what is possible. Some even settle for what they think is great sex when it is in fact only briefly fulfilling.

    Some people are lucky to have a natural intuition about sex early on. But I believe that everyone has the potential to develop this, if they have an open mind and are willing to learn. Like tantra techniques. ;-)

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  4. Absolutely. Just like any skill, with dedication and passion it could be developed over time. Even with my intuitive nature I still put in effort to go higher and higher. This is also the reason I started sharing my experience and knowledge on my blog as I noticed how many people haven't had a chance to learn how beautiful sex is. To expand their awareness and let it into their lives. The more people identify the spirituality of a sexual experience the closer we'll be to the Divine.
    I hope you Gary, also lead by example at least those around you. Sending you my support. Love women and make them feel safe to open up. For once they open up, men will feel like they are in heaven:)

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